The art of listening to the unsaid

I've been working with some wonderful people lately and every EFT session I have still amazes me. The way EFT gently coaxes out hidden memories and emotions that may have been buried so deep.

No matter how deep they are buried, they still fester like weeds, growing roots and finally branching out as multiple symptoms.

How to reach such hidden memories from symptoms that most of the time look completely unrelated to the symptoms displayed.

The greatest clue for me while working with clients is their expressions. However subtle it may be, certain words tug on these memories and the change in the expression is the biggest giveaway. These words are like finding the end of the string in a ball of yarn, that can unravel all that is hidden inside.

More often than not, the symptoms begin to appear when buried memories, feelings, and emotions have run their course and are trying to find a way out. Our resistance to acknowledging their presence in our body and mind blocks their release and finds an outlet as multiple symptoms.

I guess 'better out than in' applies here too. Since sooner or later, all that we hold inside is going to try and find a way out.

I've also seen that most of the time when I get approached by clients, it is because they are ready to make a change. In my personal experience, when the student is ready, the teacher arrives, seems to work here too. The very fact that the client has approached me, is because they are ready to make a change. They are ready to make the change because they already have the awareness that something needs to change. They have got the awareness because they have noticed that something is off and that has happened because some hidden memory, emotion, or feeling has woken up inside them.

Just the basic understanding of these has helped so many.

Now one of the most powerful phrases in my experience that have helped in this unraveling is very simply this:

"Even though I just cannot stop thinking about this problem, I still choose to love accept and forgive myself"

This particular phrase is very powerful in revealing the end that will unravel the yarn of issues and reveal the core problem. Just keep tugging at it.

Most importantly, don't dismiss any thought that comes up while using this phrase. Even it feels highly irrelevant, listen to it. It can reveal more than you know.

See you all in the next post.

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