But what is the difference between resistance and denial?
Resistance is being very aware of the problem and fighting it with
various emotions. Most times it is anger, frustration, worry, fear, sadness
or any form of desperation to get rid of it. With more resistance, there
tends to be obsessive thinking about the problem, till it grows too big to
handle.
Denial is different. There is a problem, but there
is also a refusal to even acknowledge the problem. In fact, on the contrary,
there is a tendency to make excuses, blame others, situations, and
circumstances for the problem. In this case, there is also a tendency to
feel that if we don't look at the problem. it'll disappear.
But
the subconscious mind is well aware of what is happening, and once again the
problem just grows bigger. Soon the uncomfortable feeling just becomes
tougher and tougher to handle.
The common factor in both cases is the underlying fear. In resistance,
the fear is, if we accept the problem it'll be with us forever. So we
have to fight it. In denial, the fear is, if we acknowledge there is a
problem, it will become too real to handle or the fear could be, what if
acknowledging it makes it worse.
You can use EFT in the following way to handle resistance:
Even though I am scared that if I accept the problem or if I am ok with the
problem, the problem will be with me forever, I still love, accept, and
forgive myself.
Even though I am scared that if I stop fighting
the problem, I can never be free of it, I still love, accept, and forgive
myself.
Even though I am scared that if I stop constantly worrying about the
problem, it will become a part of my life forever, I still love, accept, and
forgive myself.
You can use EFT in the following way to handle denial:
Even though a part of me feels that something is not right, but I am too
scared to face it, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.
Even
though I know I am not really happy/comfortable, I've to live with it, I
still love, accept, and forgive myself.
Even though I am scared that if I admit there is a problem, it is just
going to get worse, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.
I
do hope these setup statements will help you kick-start the
tapping.
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