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The peer pressure to be stressed


A strange phenomenon I've noticed is a reluctance to be happy, even when things are relatively going good. This can be attributed to a subconscious need to fit in. Knowingly or unknowingly, a lot of people pick up these signals to start worrying and stressing for no apparent reason.

There is a fear that if they are happy, they will be left out, or cannot fit in or maybe even they will have no one to talk to since everyone around is stressing and wallowing in their problems.

It is almost as if there is some guilt around being truly happy. So much that, there is always a distinct need to sabotage any happiness, just to fit in with the crowd. 

Sadly, to make matters worse, there is also a lot of media reinforcement if this kind of message. 

Here is a small tapping script for those who know they can be happy, but are stuck in the subconscious trap.

KC Point - Even though I know I can be happy, I just cannot seem to be happy, I still love accept and forgive myself.

KC Point - Even though I am unable to escape this feeling of feeling down and depressed, I still love accept and forgive myself.

KC Point - Even though I want to be happy, I have plenty of reasons to be happy, but it just feels so difficult with all the stress around me, I still love accept and forgive myself.

EB point - I want to be happy, but I've forgotten how to be happy.

SE point - I have so many reasons to be happy, but it still feels so tough.

UE point - I can be happy, but I've no one to share my happiness with.

UN point - How can I be happy when no one else around me is happy. 

CH point - I have a lot to be grateful for, but something is still pulling me down.

CB point -  I feel trapped in this melancholy. 

OH point - But I still choose to love accept and forgive myself. 


EB point - It feels so pointless.

SE point - I can be happy, but it just feels wrong. 

UE point - Everyone around me is so miserable. So how can I be happy? 

UN point - If I am happy, is it even real? 

CH point -  I feel I've even forgotten how to be happy. 

CB point - Every time I am happy and I see someone around me miserable, it feels so wrong to be happy.

OH point -  But I still choose to love accept and forgive myself. 

EB point - But what if I can be happy and help others be happy too?

SE point - What if I can help them vibrate at a higher level instead of getting pulled down by others.

UE point - Or what if I choose to be happy and stay happy and attract other happy people around me. 

UN point - I do have that choice.

CH point -  The choice to stay miserable or to get happy and see where that road takes me. 

CB point -  I am ready to shake off this feeling of melancholy now. 

OH point -  And I choose to love accept and forgive myself. 

EB point - I give myself the permission to be happy now.

SE point - To be joyous and laugh.

UE point - To have fun and to share and spread this joy.

UN point - I give myself the permission to break free from the rut 

CH point -  And be grateful for all the wonderful things around me. 

CB point -  I choose happiness now and am ready for the shift to happen.

OH point -  And I choose to love accept and forgive myself. 


Repeat these rounds a couple of times with along whatever words your intuition gives you too. Also if you seriously feel your present company is not doing you any favors, go out there and find your own tribe. They are waiting for you. Go have fun.  See you all in the next post. 

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