EFT is an excellent tool in unmasking emotions. But sometimes the resistance to letting go of the negative emotion comes from an unknown need to shield ourselves from what may lie behind it. Our subconscious mind detects our ability to handle the real emotion and more often than not, it chooses an easier negative emotion to cloak it with. Most of you may be very aware of masking a negative emotion with a fake smile, fake laugh, etc., and that's the job our conscious mind does. But when there is a lot of sadness, grief, fear, or just unpreparedness to handle what lies underneath - our subconscious mind does an excellent job of cloaking it with either anger, irritation, frustration, resentment, or even feelings of revenge. These feelings, especially anger, give an indication of feeling stronger and more in control compared to the underlying feeling. But the cloaking emotion only further adds to the confusion and complications. Once agai...
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Those who are familiar with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), would also be aware of surrogate EFT. For those who are new to EFT, surrogate EFT is when a person taps for someone else who is suffering or struggling or has some health issues, that make it difficult for them to tap on their own. Before we can do surrogate EFT for someone, it is always wiser to ensure we have no emotional attachments to whatever and whoever we are working with. One thing surrogate EFT cannot do is go against anyone's free will. It is a good idea to take permission from the person or their higher self before getting into it. Do your best and let it go. Recently I had an amazing experience with one of my clients who was suffering so much that it was impossible for them to do EFT by themselves. Since the sessions were already booked, I offered to do surrogate tapping to ease the suffering. And then I realized in this case it worked better...
Most problems faced by us meet with one of these reactions. Either a firm resistance or a stoic denial. In both cases, in the absence of acceptance, the problem festers, grows, multiplies, and sometimes develops in repeating patterns. But what is the difference between resistance and denial? Resistance is being very aware of the problem and fighting it with various emotions. Most times it is anger, frustration, worry, fear, sadness or any form of desperation to get rid of it. With more resistance, there tends to be obsessive thinking about the problem, till it grows too big to handle. Denial is different. There is a problem, but there is also a refusal to even acknowledge the problem. In fact, on the contrary, there is a tendency to make excuses, blame others, situations, and circumstances for the problem. In this case, there is also a tendency to feel that if we don't look at the problem. it'll disappear. But the...
Let me just share a small story with you all today. I had gone for a walk at a local park this morning. It was a lovely morning though a bit warm. The breeze was crisp and the lake in the park shimmered and glowed in the morning sun. I was just beginning to soak it all in when, within a few steps, I felt there was something in my shoe. It was a bit bothersome, so I removed my shoe, did a simple dusting, and tried walking on. But something was stuck and kept poking me. I realized it could have been a stray thorn from my previous visit. Rather than trying to remove it right then and there, I tried to ignore it/ thought I could manage and kept walking on. But It was getting painful. The more I walked, the more painful it became and the less I enjoyed my walk. In fact, it was also slowing me down and kept my focus constantly on the painful point. I also forgot all about the beautiful scenery around me. Finally, I had t...
The world is going through a huge change in so many ways. One of the main effects I have noticed in so many people around me is the amount of disconnect everyone is feeling not just with each other, but with themselves as well. Despite the growing number of communication gadgets, the emotional distance and mental disconnect are growing rapidly, leading to increasing loneliness and related symptoms. Though we have to ride through the shift in the world energy, we can at least tap through the other feelings and emotions so we can deal with this disconnect a bit better and maybe even start reconnecting again. KC Point - Even though I feel so alone despite having so many people around me, I still love accept and forgive myself. KC Point - Even though I have no one to talk to and I feel so disconnected from everyone around me, I still love accept and forgive myself. KC Point - Even though I ...
How often have we given away our power to someone else and are unable to take it back because of our own anger and resentment? Maybe they have wronged us, let us down or even broken our trust. But holding on to the anger and resentment further entraps us in our own web of spiraling emotions. These festering emotions and at times even a need for revenge seems to pull us down in misery and a powerless feeling. Sometimes, just our perception of the other person and our reaction to that perception can make us hand over our power to that person. It rarely affects the other person, but this anger and resentment tend to eat us from inside. Here is a short script to take back our power and set ourselves free. Let's call the other person 'X'. A bit cliche, yes, but let's just roll with it.. :) KC Point - Even though I am so angry and annoyed with 'X'. Just thinking about 'X' makes me angry. But I ca...
A strange phenomenon I've noticed is a reluctance to be happy, even when things are relatively going good. This can be attributed to a subconscious need to fit in. Knowingly or unknowingly, a lot of people pick up these signals to start worrying and stressing for no apparent reason. There is a fear that if they are happy, they will be left out, or cannot fit in or maybe even they will have no one to talk to since everyone around is stressing and wallowing in their problems. It is almost as if there is some guilt around being truly happy. So much that, there is always a distinct need to sabotage any happiness, just to fit in with the crowd. Sadly, to make matters worse, there is also a lot of media reinforcement if this kind of message. Here is a small tapping script for those who know they can be happy, but are stuck in the subconscious trap. KC Point - Even though I know I can be happy, I just cannot seem to be happy, I st...
