Resistance and Denial

Most problems faced by us meet with one of these reactions. Either a firm resistance or a stoic denial. In both cases, in the absence of acceptance, the problem festers, grows, multiplies, and sometimes develops in repeating patterns. 

But what is the difference between resistance and denial?

Resistance is being very aware of the problem and fighting it with various emotions. Most times it is anger, frustration, worry, fear, sadness or any form of desperation to get rid of it. With more resistance, there tends to be obsessive thinking about the problem, till it grows too big to handle. 

Denial is different. There is a problem, but there is also a refusal to even acknowledge the problem. In fact, on the contrary, there is a tendency to make excuses, blame others, situations, and circumstances for the problem. In this case, there is also a tendency to feel that if we don't look at the problem. it'll disappear. 

But the subconscious mind is well aware of what is happening, and once again the problem just grows bigger. Soon the uncomfortable feeling just becomes tougher and tougher to handle.

The common factor in both cases is the underlying fear. In resistance, the fear is, if we accept the problem it'll be with us forever. So we have to fight it. In denial, the fear is, if we acknowledge there is a problem, it will become too real to handle or the fear could be, what if acknowledging it makes it worse.

You can use EFT in the following way to handle resistance:

Even though I am scared that if I accept the problem or if I am ok with the problem, the problem will be with me forever, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.

Even though I am scared that if I stop fighting the problem, I can never be free of it, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.

Even though I am scared that if I stop constantly worrying about the problem, it will become a part of my life forever, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.

You can use EFT in the following way to handle denial:

Even though a part of me feels that something is not right, but I am too scared to face it, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.

Even though I know I am not really happy/comfortable, I've to live with it, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.

Even though I am scared that if I admit there is a problem, it is just going to get worse, I still love, accept, and forgive myself.

I do hope these setup statements will help you kick-start the tapping. 

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