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There are those times when things get rough. Nothing seems to work out and no matter how much you try, things always fall apart. So how do get through tough times like that? How to know and believe there is something good in all of it. Even if you cannot tap, or are not in a position to work with EFT at that time, make time for this small prayer to the Universe. All you need to say is something like this: "Though I've no idea as to why it is all going wrong or nothing seems to work, if there is even the slightest chance that all this is happening for a good reason or it is all for the best in some way, I choose to be open to that possibility. I ask for the strength and courage from the Universe and Divine to be able to handle these tough times, and the wisdom to recognize all the good that is hidden behind these tough times." And just keep repeating "It is all for the best" like...
All of us go through certain trying times in our lives when we come across some trying problems. Problems that may not be in the forefront, but always lingering in the background, just enough to be persistently annoying and affecting our lives. A short setup statement script to help with these kinds of problems is this: "Even though it is beyond me to find an answer or solution to this problem, I can choose to release this problem to the universe, to be resolved in a way and manner that's for my highest good and the highest good of all concerned. Even though this problem has been going on for too long and is embedded too deep, I still choose to let go of all my need to control, solve, manipulate or fix this problem and am open to releasing it to the universe, for it to be resolved as easily, as smoothly as possible for my highest good and the highest good of all concerned. Even though I may have ...
This is a slightly different topic than the others I've covered so far. We have focused on finding various aspects to help heal ourselves from different matters of the mind and body. There are however a whole lot of people on this planet who suffer from similar problems as we do but are unaware of alternative healing modalities that might help them in multiple ways. This is a short post with just a suggestion to add one line along with each time you tap. This, so you can pass along some good energy to others around you who may need healing for some similar problem as yours. Of course, this will happen if their higher self is open to healing. Here is the sentence, you can repeat a few times as you tap, wherever you feel it can fit in easily. "As I heal with the help of the divine and universal healing energies, I choose to share this healing energy with all those across the globe, who m...
EFT is an excellent tool in unmasking emotions. But sometimes the resistance to letting go of the negative emotion comes from an unknown need to shield ourselves from what may lie behind it. Our subconscious mind detects our ability to handle the real emotion and more often than not, it chooses an easier negative emotion to cloak it with. Most of you may be very aware of masking a negative emotion with a fake smile, fake laugh, etc., and that's the job our conscious mind does. But when there is a lot of sadness, grief, fear, or just unpreparedness to handle what lies underneath - our subconscious mind does an excellent job of cloaking it with either anger, irritation, frustration, resentment, or even feelings of revenge. These feelings, especially anger, give an indication of feeling stronger and more in control compared to the underlying feeling. But the cloaking emotion only further adds to the confusion and complications. Once agai...
Those who are familiar with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), would also be aware of surrogate EFT. For those who are new to EFT, surrogate EFT is when a person taps for someone else who is suffering or struggling or has some health issues, that make it difficult for them to tap on their own. Before we can do surrogate EFT for someone, it is always wiser to ensure we have no emotional attachments to whatever and whoever we are working with. One thing surrogate EFT cannot do is go against anyone's free will. It is a good idea to take permission from the person or their higher self before getting into it. Do your best and let it go. Recently I had an amazing experience with one of my clients who was suffering so much that it was impossible for them to do EFT by themselves. Since the sessions were already booked, I offered to do surrogate tapping to ease the suffering. And then I realized in this case it worked better...
Most problems faced by us meet with one of these reactions. Either a firm resistance or a stoic denial. In both cases, in the absence of acceptance, the problem festers, grows, multiplies, and sometimes develops in repeating patterns. But what is the difference between resistance and denial? Resistance is being very aware of the problem and fighting it with various emotions. Most times it is anger, frustration, worry, fear, sadness or any form of desperation to get rid of it. With more resistance, there tends to be obsessive thinking about the problem, till it grows too big to handle. Denial is different. There is a problem, but there is also a refusal to even acknowledge the problem. In fact, on the contrary, there is a tendency to make excuses, blame others, situations, and circumstances for the problem. In this case, there is also a tendency to feel that if we don't look at the problem. it'll disappear. But the...
Let me just share a small story with you all today. I had gone for a walk at a local park this morning. It was a lovely morning though a bit warm. The breeze was crisp and the lake in the park shimmered and glowed in the morning sun. I was just beginning to soak it all in when, within a few steps, I felt there was something in my shoe. It was a bit bothersome, so I removed my shoe, did a simple dusting, and tried walking on. But something was stuck and kept poking me. I realized it could have been a stray thorn from my previous visit. Rather than trying to remove it right then and there, I tried to ignore it/ thought I could manage and kept walking on. But It was getting painful. The more I walked, the more painful it became and the less I enjoyed my walk. In fact, it was also slowing me down and kept my focus constantly on the painful point. I also forgot all about the beautiful scenery around me. Finally, I had t...
The world is going through a huge change in so many ways. One of the main effects I have noticed in so many people around me is the amount of disconnect everyone is feeling not just with each other, but with themselves as well. Despite the growing number of communication gadgets, the emotional distance and mental disconnect are growing rapidly, leading to increasing loneliness and related symptoms. Though we have to ride through the shift in the world energy, we can at least tap through the other feelings and emotions so we can deal with this disconnect a bit better and maybe even start reconnecting again. KC Point - Even though I feel so alone despite having so many people around me, I still love accept and forgive myself. KC Point - Even though I have no one to talk to and I feel so disconnected from everyone around me, I still love accept and forgive myself. KC Point - Even though I ...
How often have we given away our power to someone else and are unable to take it back because of our own anger and resentment? Maybe they have wronged us, let us down or even broken our trust. But holding on to the anger and resentment further entraps us in our own web of spiraling emotions. These festering emotions and at times even a need for revenge seems to pull us down in misery and a powerless feeling. Sometimes, just our perception of the other person and our reaction to that perception can make us hand over our power to that person. It rarely affects the other person, but this anger and resentment tend to eat us from inside. Here is a short script to take back our power and set ourselves free. Let's call the other person 'X'. A bit cliche, yes, but let's just roll with it.. :) KC Point - Even though I am so angry and annoyed with 'X'. Just thinking about 'X' makes me angry. But I ca...
A strange phenomenon I've noticed is a reluctance to be happy, even when things are relatively going good. This can be attributed to a subconscious need to fit in. Knowingly or unknowingly, a lot of people pick up these signals to start worrying and stressing for no apparent reason. There is a fear that if they are happy, they will be left out, or cannot fit in or maybe even they will have no one to talk to since everyone around is stressing and wallowing in their problems. It is almost as if there is some guilt around being truly happy. So much that, there is always a distinct need to sabotage any happiness, just to fit in with the crowd. Sadly, to make matters worse, there is also a lot of media reinforcement if this kind of message. Here is a small tapping script for those who know they can be happy, but are stuck in the subconscious trap. KC Point - Even though I know I can be happy, I just cannot seem to be happy, I st...
How many of you are with me on this? where we put off the celebration of anything and everything for a future date. We need everything to be perfect to celebrate. Either something is missing or something is not good enough to celebrate. But here is the real deal. How often do we say 'Good Job Universe, this is so perfect' or 'Perfect timing Universe, thank you so much for that' The more we do that, the more we can attract reasons to appreciate, love, and celebrate. So start celebrating everything. Pump your fists in the air and tell the Universe ' Awesome job, that was just perfect. Thank you so much for giving me exactly what I wanted at the perfect timing'. Invariably, you'll start noticing more and more coincidences, things falling into place amazingly. You'll feel the nudge of the Universe in the right direction, and you will even be able to read the signs from the Universe more effectively. This I...
I've been working with some wonderful people lately and every EFT session I have still amazes me. The way EFT gently coaxes out hidden memories and emotions that may have been buried so deep. No matter how deep they are buried, they still fester like weeds, growing roots and finally branching out as multiple symptoms. How to reach such hidden memories from symptoms that most of the time look completely unrelated to the symptoms displayed. The greatest clue for me while working with clients is their expressions. However subtle it may be, certain words tug on these memories and the change in the expression is the biggest giveaway. These words are like finding the end of the string in a ball of yarn, that can unravel all that is hidden inside. More often than not, the symptoms begin to appear when buried memories, feelings, and emotions have run their course and are trying to find a way out. Our resistance to acknowledging their presence in our body and...
It has been a long time since I've posted here. But considering the current circumstances, with Coronavirus turning all our lives upside down, panic and fear looming large, one sentence mentioned by a friend stood out to me. "I believe in miracles." So how is it possible to even think of miracles with countries all over the world going into lockdown. For those who are new to eft, please check here: https://eftwayoflife.blogspot.com/2017/03/eft-wholesome-tool.html Resources are available all over the net too : I tapped on it and I am sharing a few EFT scripts to help you also tap on it. It is my sincere belief that if we all can focus our miracles, it is bound to happen. So here it is: KC Point - Even though I am really scared worried and stressed now and have no idea how to focus on miracles, I still love accept and forgive myself. KC Point - Even though the whole world is really s...
I just realized it has been a really long time since I last wrote here, but that's not because I did not have anything to write, but sometimes there are so many things to write about that it becomes tough to prioritize. Every day morning as you wake up and look at the newspaper or just turn on the news, what do you feel? Is there anything at all these days in the papers and the news channels that may even remotely bring cheer even in the vaguest sort of way? How often do we go through the day feeling disturbed and not really sure why we are disturbed till we rewind and detect it to be a tiny part of the news that was on some page 7 of any paper or just overhearing a snippet of the morning news while we ready ourselves for the day ( I personally have stopped listening to the news because of this but still browse through the paper and of course when we have the internet, what else is needed). Have we realized each day how much stress do we dump ...
This is an idea I chanced upon through a casual comment by a good friend who I had introduced to EFT a while ago. She was having some issues at her workplace and started using EFT to deal with them. One evening as we were talking, she mentioned that EFT is like having a friend whom you can talk to about anything and I just felt how true the statement was. So how can we use this in our practice with EFT? Some of us are lucky enough to have friends to whom we can talk just about anything, without being judged, laughed or being looked at as plain crazy. But for the others among us who have crossed the BFF stage in life, it is not that easy to have that one friend to who we can pour out our hearts, we may have different friends with whom we discuss various matters, but that one package deal may be missing with everyone having their own challenges in life. So for the lucky ones among us, when you have an issue or a problem and you call or cr...
It is ironic that the moment we realize EFT works it gets scary, the kind of changes we can have once we let go of our issues, how our lives will change, getting out of our comfort zone where we have settled down cozily with the problems at hand, being comfortable with a bit of complaining about it on and off rather than face the changes a better life would bring in... more responsibilities? more friends? a bigger social circle? a more active life? more finances to manage? better weight? ... naaaaa..... who is ready to deal with all that ... this is a perfect place for us to be in... crib a little, complain on and off... and life will go on as is.... but to not feel guilty about not doing anything, we do skim along with a bit of EFT... just enough to not feel really miserable.... bit apart from that stay as close to the comfort zone as possible. So how do we deal with this? yes, a big change can be a real challenge, and that itself can lead to ...
It can be really frustrating at times when we feel deprived or have severe feelings of lack and no matter how much we try we cannot look at the positive side of things. Here is small tweak to EFT Tapping that can be tried out in such circumstances. Gratitude is a wonderful thing and when we have difficulty in feeling any gratitude try this: An Example - KC- Even though I am feeling very lonely and I have no friends, I still profoundly love accept and forgive myself. (3 times) EB- I feel lonely, I've no friends. SE- I am thankful for all the good friendships I've had. UE- I am feeling so bad I've no one around me right now. UN- I am thankful for all the times I've had wonderful people around me to talk to , have fun with etc. CH- I am afraid I am beyond the making friends point in life. CB- I am glad I am still capable of caring, feeling and sharing and that's a wonderful thing. UA- I hate being lonely. TH- I am still capable...
For those who have been practicing EFT for a while and the newcomers to EFT, it is really simple that once we have done a couple of rounds of EFT, it reveals a lot of things to us. When new emotions come up, it is really good, all we have to do is address them with another round of EFT. But sometimes our sweet intellect takes over and we start getting a number of thoughts, some memories, some perceived thoughts where we start analyzing the thoughts as possible connections to the issue at hand and start tapping on them. This takes us away from the issue. I hope you are with me so far and are getting what I am trying to say. For Example, if the issue at hand is you are feeling bad about something someone said to you, after a couple of rounds of tapping ideas come to your head and you start tapping " Even though I think xyz said this to me because..... " That becomes analysis rather than focusing on emotions. Even if such a thought does co...
